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So, You Married a White Man and People Suck When You Talk About It

Let’s start with the basics. I am a Black woman married to a white man. We have been together for nine years, during which the national conversation around race changed dramatically in this country. Black people have constant streams of evidence to prove to white people that they’ve been bullshitting themselves about racism all their lives and they don’t like it. Some hate it so much that they are outing themselves as nazis and actively recruiting, while other white people tell themselves they are allies until it’s time to believe and support Black people, at which point they eject from the conversation and immerse themselves with other white al-LIES about being punished despite being good to Black people. I, myself, was guilty of thinking that white people gave a fuck until I started building a life with one. Now I have a different perspective on all that shit.

Voting Is Bullshit But I'll Do It Anyway

I am an American who is not an American. My skin is too brown, my body too female and fat, and I cannot and will not occupy the space that amerikkka tries to coerce me into occupying to belong. I cannot neutralize my physicality enough to make whiteness comfortable with my presence and I no longer try. The truth of my existence here is apparent – I will never belong, and I am only mildly tolerable when I perform the roles white patriarchy dictates. And that is not who I choose to be.

To The Black Men Who Think They Are Neutral But Really Support White Patriarchal Supremacy…

I’m going to keep it real. I don’t usually single out Black men. I’m aware of the optics that my interracial marriage has when it comes to talking about them. I’ve opted to keep my discussions about them off-line and grouped with either Blackness or maleness, but I can’t really do that anymore cuz they are seriously working my nerves with their fuckshit.