Let’s start with the basics. I am a Black woman married to a white man. We have been together for nine years, during which the national conversation around race changed dramatically in this country. Black people have constant streams of evidence to prove to white people that they’ve been bullshitting themselves about racism all their lives and they don’t like it. Some hate it so much that they are outing themselves as nazis and actively recruiting, while other white people tell themselves they are allies until it’s time to believe and support Black people, at which point they eject from the conversation and immerse themselves with other white al-LIES about being punished despite being good to Black people. I, myself, was guilty of thinking that white people gave a fuck until I started building a life with one. Now I have a different perspective on all that shit.